“I am no too smart” don’t make your child think so.
If your child has got B+ then appreciate and don’t crib about why he has not got A. Children are quite impressionable, so in building their self esteem they need praise and appreciation from us for them to grow a responsible and emotionally healthy adult. When we crib like that you must know that you are committing a mistake as you fail to realize what a great job the B+ truly was. Rather then cribbing we should tell them B+ was great job, show off and display child’s accomplishment and show how proud you are of the child.
Our behavior and word can do lot of good or bad it can be damaging. The words can build the children up or tear children down, shattering their esteem up.
We need to monitor our words, our language for our children to be happy, have positive self image and develop self esteem. Your parenting skills are responsible for your child to develop good self esteem rather than low self esteem.
Five phrases to avoid when talking with your children:
Shut up
Imagine what it does to you when your boss shouts and sat Shut up! Do you want your kids to feel the same? Whatever be the age of kid- he would not like hearing this words at all. This is one of the most rude and unnecessary phrase. You could always use “Please be quiet” or make it like some request and little nicer.
Because I said so
You cannot compel your kid to do whatever you want just because you said so. The question of “why” “why” “why” needs to be answered and explained. This is important for their learning. At times children can be nuisance when they pester you for knowing “why”, and that time you may again utter this phrase. Explaining your decision often helps as why you are saying no or why you said to do so.
Just wait until your mother/ father gets home!
Don’t create a terror in heart of kid, that’s bad and also don’t take undue advantage of your spouse. A child fears those whom he loves the most or either he hates. So better don’t use this phrase and create a rift in relation. At times it so happen that when the person on whose name you are threatening when comes home tired may even spank the kid. This all thing can become evil and fiasco and will have long term bad effects.
I’ll give you something to cry about
This is crazy and most sad thing to say to your kid. They are already crying because their demand must have not been met or your anger may have scared them but upon all that you say this will truly hurt them so much and make them feel not lovable.
As long as you are living under my roof
This one takes the worst of all prize, and I think don’t even need to finish the sentence or phrase. What good this phrase can do I don’t even get a single point but tremendous harm it can cause to child and his mental and physical well being. This may make them hate you for eternity. And in teenage years when you say this phrase they will take it literally and may eave home right then and there.
When you become parents and in course of teaching them right and good, there will be many confrontational situations with your children.
Stop and consider your word and even level of your voice as children are young, and their self esteem and ego is fragile. Its important parenting skills as to what to say to children and equally important is how you say it.
